‘You’re their parent not their friend.’

I have heard, read and seen this be said so many times to other parents, mainly from other parents and while I can see where they are coming from and what they’re trying to say. My children honestly are my best friends. They’re my very best friends and sometimes my only friends! And I can’t help but wonder, Is that such a bad thing? I don’t think so.

Don’t get me wrong, while I will always be their parent first and foremost and of course as their parent it is my job to teach them right from wrong, discipline and how to be good people. I think it’s also my job to make them feel safe and let them feel like they can come to me about absolutely anything. I think I can manage doing both and I think all of those things are equally as important as each other.

Growing up I was always close with my mum and I can’t ever imagine my children not being that way with me. I want that closeness and despite what other people think, I think that’s healthy and good for children to have that. If my children can’t come to me with their problems then who can they come to? I hate the thought of them ever feeling like they wouldn’t be able to talk to me, their mum. I would imagine not being able to confide in your parents can make you feel very lonely and I don’t want that for my kids. I am the one person they should be able to come to about anything no matter what it is without feeling like they’re gonna be judged.

I think being open with your children is so important and how better to do that than to show them love and have a good relationship with them by forming a friendship. I am so proud to say that me and my kids do have very good relationships. Especially me and Kory with Kora only being 6 months old but I need those kids as much as they need me. We are so close and I wouldn’t change that for the world.

Ive made many mistakes as a parent but I don’t think being friends with my kids is one of them.

4 thoughts on “‘You’re their parent not their friend.’

    1. Me too! I can’t imagine not having a friendship with my kids. It’s nice to hear someone else who feels the same x


  1. I love this way of thinking. As you stated, it’s perfectly acceptable to be friends with your kids, but being a parent first and foremost. I mean think about it, you are the first relationship that your kids are going to experience. How are they going to learn to be a good friend or a good person if they don’t learn it from their parents and see it from their parents. It is an awesome thing to have such and open relationship with your kids and to even do things with them as friends would.

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    1. I’m glad to hear someone agrees with me on this one! To me, I think having a good relationship with your children is so important (and awesome too!) for all the reasons you’ve stated above. I like what you said about us being the first relationship that they are going to experience and I hadn’t thought of it that way before. That to me just makes it seem all the more important. Thank you for commenting x


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