Life as a mum of two is crazy. Which is probably why it’s taken me over a year to finally get round to writing about it!
When I became a mum for the first time it changed my life in more ways than I could have ever imagined. When I became a mum for the second time, of course things changed but it was different.
In some ways it was easier. You remember the do’s and don’ts from the first time round, you know what to expect during your pregnancy and labour and in some ways you’re more relaxed but nothing can prepare you for the transition from it being just you and your child to then you, your child and a baby.
In some ways it was harder. The lack of sleep is even harder the second time round as you can’t just decide to have a sleep when the baby sleeps as you already have another child to run around after. You won’t always be able to meet both your children’s needs all the time and with that comes a massive wave of mum guilt. You might not cope as well the second time round and do you know what? That’s okay. I’ve made it no secret on my blog, online or in person that I have found becoming a mum to two really difficult and sometimes I still do.
But eventually you do learn new habits that (sometimes) make being a mum to two that bit easier.
- You learn how to do things with two children and you get better at splitting your time between them both. It’s nice being able to play with both children at the same time but when Kora is napping, that’s my chance to have some time just with Kory and to do something we would find difficult to do if she was awake and wondering off, such as baking and vice versa.
- You don’t grow an extra pair of hands but you will learn how to hold your youngest whilst doing something for/with your other child.
- You learn how to get two kids out of the house without it taking 3 hours. In my case, I pack the pram bag and everything I think we might need the night before.
- You learn how to get both kids to sleep at night at the same time and you will feel like a boss.
- You learn that you thought having one child was hard and then you realise it was easier than you thought compared to being a mum of two.
- You also learn that you’re a lot stronger and more capable than you ever give yourself credit for and you can do more than you ever knew possible.
- You will fall in love with your second baby just as much as you did with your first and seeing them together and love each other will make your heart want to explode. You will never know a love like it.
Life as a mum of two is crazy but absolutely worth it. Of course there are hard days but when I see my two children together and the bond they have with each other I know that making the decision to have another baby was one of the best decisions I have ever made.
Parents who have two or more kids, how did you find the transition from one to two? Do you have any advice for anyone expecting baby number two? I would love to hear your thoughts.