I suck at using social media

I suck at using social media. Especially when it comes to promoting my blog. I realise that in order to promote my blog I have to have some kind of following online (otherwise who am I sharing my posts with?) which I do have a reasonable amount on Instagram already but the problem is that I don’t really engage with many of the followers I already have on there and so I’m not really going to gain any more as I don’t share much on there unless it’s blogging related. I don’t share anything personal and so I’m not really engaging with anyone.

Right now I have a Facebook account and a separate page for my blog and other than sharing my blog posts I don’t really use it for much else and the same applies to my Instagram account. Unless I am sharing one of my blog posts I just don’t really use it. I guess I’m just not a fan of posting a lot of the time and I worry that means that blogging might not be the career path for me after all as I understand that the social media side of things comes with having a blog and I’m just really not into continuously posting all of the time. I’ve tried and tried and honestly, I feel like I’m forcing myself to post about things that aren’t blog related. It’s become like a chore almost.

A few months ago I was like ‘what the heck even is a story post for?’ So I guess you could say I’m a bit of a technophobe and at 26 years old, I’m one of the few as it seems everyone my age is all over social media, forever posting on their stories and I just for whatever reason – don’t.

I mean, I love love love my blog and writing, I just don’t enjoy using social media but i’ve decided I want my blog to be successful and without readers, how can that be? Do you see my problem…

But I’ve decided that I’m going to continue posting as I am anyway and only share more on my social media platforms if I feel like it. Some people reading this might think that that’s quite stubborn of me which is fare enough, I mean if I want to find a way to make my blog work then surely I should find a way to make social media work for me as well as they go hand in hand but the way I see it is that social media isn’t for everybody and it certainly isn’t for me and that’s okay but that doesn’t mean that my blog can’t be a success. I believe in what I write and I try to be as real as I can with what I write and I believe that my readers can appreciate that. I check my stats all of the time and I get views every single day so some people somewhere out there must enjoy reading what I write. Thank you to those people!

What I am going to do is I’m going to keep writing because that’s what I love to do and if people want to read what I write then they can and they will know about it as I have no problem sharing my blog posts on social media, I just have a problem sharing non related blog stuff as I don’t feel the need to post about my every move. I won’t be pressuring myself to post more than what I feel comfortable with on my social media accounts as I don’t feel that it’s necessary. If people want to know me more than just my vague social media posts then they can get to know more about me through my writing. By reading my blog. This is where I’m my most honest, this is where you will find me speaking openly and honestly about my life.

There are other ways I can grow my blogs audience that don’t need me to change my habits on social media. I could:

  • Ask readers to sign up for my blog (for free) so that they get notified by email whenever I post.
  • Ask family, friends and readers to like, comment and share my posts.
  • Keep sharing my blog posts across my social media platforms.
  • Keep on writing.

I really do believe that I can make something of my blog without changing the way that I use social media. For anyone reading this and rolling their eyes and thinking ‘oh just another mummy blog…’ I’d like to tell you that you’re entitled to your opinion but that I think you are wrong. Everyone’s parenting journey is different, no ones child is the same, no two parents are the same and so motherhood is a different experience for everyone and although we can all relate to each other on many things we all experience as parents, we also all may handle things differently from one another, we all may feel differently about different things from one another and so for me at least anyway, I don’t feel it matters that I might be ‘just another mummy blog’ because I’m writing honestly about my own family, my own kids, my own parenting struggles, my own parenting wins and my own parenting journey that is unique to me. And if writing about that helps a single person, or makes another parent feel less alone, then I’m more than happy with that and anyone who wants to read what I write is more than welcome to. Or even if I’m wrong and my blog never becomes of anything, you will still find me writing. I don’t just write for others, I write for myself too. My blog is a way for me to rid myself of any thoughts or anything that’s been weighing me down. It’s good for me to get that off my chest.

So yeah, I’m fully aware that I suck at using social media, I’m fully aware that I don’t have tens of thousands of followers and that I probably never will (because I suck at using social media like I said!) but I’m also fully aware that I love my blog and that I’m positive and determined that I’m gonna make this work. With or without social media.

Those are my thoughts on social media. How do you feel about using social media? Please let me know by leaving me a comment and if you liked this post, I would be most grateful if you could leave me a like or even better, give this post a share.

Thank you so much for reading my post. I really do appreciate each and everyone of you.

Take care,

Kirsti, xo

10 thoughts on “I suck at using social media

      1. LOL, I can’t read so I write down (vague David Bowie / Tin Machine reference 😉 ) … I DL stuff I intend to read (+perhaps review) later. Good luck at continuing to suck at something which is apparently completely meaningless. 😀

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      2. Cool! I’ll be sure to take a look at your blog 😊 LOL thanks, somehow I think I will be okay with that. May not be meaningless to everyone, I mean, it sure does have its uses. I mostly use Facebook for friends and relatives to keep in touch with them and to post updates about my kids but that’s about it. I certainly don’t spend all day on social media and I can accept that if I had a bigger social media presence it would help my blogs audience grow but for me I’m tired with the mundane posting of posts just for the sake of it so I’ve chosen to do what makes me happy instead and that’s to write.

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  1. I totally understand this dilemma. I’m often torn between wanting to make something of my blog, but not wanting to make blogging a chore as I love it. When I try and plug my blog posts everywhere (or my vlogs for that matter), I tend to get disheartened by the lack of people who care. You’d think my family and friends would take the second to just like it, but they don’t, and I think that makes me reluctant to really put effort into the social media side of things. I’m also cautious about who I’m sharing my life with & in particular, my child’s life and photos with. I don’t know that I want this to be public because if I did get big, I can’t imagine what hate I’d get about things & I’m just not down for that. There’s a multitude of reasons I suck at social media when it comes to promoting my blog and YouTube channel, but ultimately, I totally feel this vibe that – I don’t want to blog for the sake of it, it’s my outlet. And if it was to go big, which it won’t, but if it was, it would have to be an extremely random viral post because I’m not prepared to a) do follower trains ever again b) join engagement groups and c) have social media accounts dedicated to my content. So yeah. Wow that was a lot. I may has well have replied in my own blog post 🤣 xxx

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    1. Thank you, Bea! I knew you’d understand. And I totally feel that dilemma myself but I also try to look at it as how awesome it would be to be able to make something of something that you already love so much. If that makes sense? Sure, I’ve asked family and friends to share things for me in the past and some have and some haven’t and it can be disheartening but please don’t feel disheartened and keep blogging and vlogging because I for one love reading and watching what you share! I too am cautious about sharing too much online about my kids which is another reason why I think I prefer my blog to social media because I can write about what I like but only going into as much detail as I feel comfortable with on my blog. With my blog, I’m not even obligated to share a photo where as on Instagram, I have to. I think that might be what I struggle most with, is being personal when I don’t want to be on social media. I’m not talking fame or becoming rich either, I just would love to be able to do this every day and hopefully someday be able to make some sort of steady income from this. I’ve never really thought about my blog this way before and it doesn’t change the fact that I would blog regardless whether my blog ever becomes a success or not but as Kory and Kora are getting older, I’ve thought about the possibility of going back to work and what career I would like but childcare is still an issue for us and I would love to be able to do something that is just for me y’know? As long as I don’t lose that passion for my blog, honestly, I’m happy either way. But for me it was just the social media side of things that was bringing me down a bit, especially since it felt more like an obligation. One I did try to keep up with too but it was just making me miserable. I don’t think I’m prepared to do any of those things either, I’m just going to keep on doing what I love and if something comes of it then thats amazing and if it doesn’t it doesn’t matter, I haven’t lost anything either. I just wasn’t prepared to lose myself to social media. If people want to post daily, hourly even then they totally should because that’s what they want to do but if someone, like myself, doesn’t want to do that then in my case I’m gonna be real about it that and I’m not gonna do it. It doesn’t bring me happiness so be done with it is the way I see it anyway. You might as well have replied in your own blog post which would be cool with me because I’d read it anyway 🤣 xxx

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      1. 👏👏👏 100% see where you’re coming from! I will keep on reading and interacting with your blog posts no matter what, because they’re thoroughly enjoyable and you’re a genuine and kind person. Haha… Keep tuned, the Weekly Waffle is coming tomorrow – I might just copy and paste this 🤣🤣 ❤️

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      2. I LOVE READING THE WEEKLY WAFFLE! ❤️ I’d be okay with that too 🤣 thank you so much! I can’t thank you enough for your support or your kind words. I truly do consider you a friend xxx

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      3. 🎉 eeek it makes me so happy to hear that me jabbering on is actually something people enjoy! 😂 also, you too! And You’re welcome ❤️

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  2. It’s very enjoyable and I find your honesty rather refreshing! This is a journey and it’s great to see somewhere speak about both the ups and the downs. You have come so far ❤️

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