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My child doesn’t leave me alone

As a boy mum, I am used to the fact that my days consist of Kory wanting to wrestle, who can shout the loudest contests, farts and mud. And when he’s not wrestling me, he wants to cuddle me or sleep with me and that’s nice but some days when I’ve not stopped tidying, i’ve done the food shopping, unpacked and put it away and entertained him all morning (all before even having a second for myself!) it would be nice to be able to just sit down with a cup of tea and to just have a moment. But usually the second I sit down Kory will want to show me something or ask me for something and sometimes I feel like my child doesn’t leave me alone.

Even writing this blog post was a challenge!

I don’t mean to sound like a ‘bad’ mum and some of you may think I’m selfish for feeling this way but when you’ve been stepped on, heard ‘mum’ shouted for the 100th time, been pushed and accidentally run over by a bike all before dinner time as well as feeling like everything is getting on top of you, sometimes the demands and lack of space can all just get a bit too much.

I feel like as mums we’re not allowed to complain about being tired or wanting space from our children without someone saying something along the lines of ‘oh but you’ll miss this when they’re older’ or ‘make the most of your time with them’ those people need to listen up! I’m sure I will miss this when he’s older but right now, I’m exhausted and I do make the most of my time with my kid, I spend my life raising him! As mums we are allowed to feel things and we’re allowed to complain, it doesn’t mean we don’t love our children!

It just means we’re human.

I feel like my child doesn’t leave me alone because he doesn’t. Some days I can handle that, some days I can’t, some days I feel like supermum and some days I feel like I wanna cry. That’s what being a mum is.

My child doesn’t leave me alone.

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Everyone always says ‘you will lose your friends when you have a baby’

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Or ‘you will find out who your true friends are when you’ve had a baby’ and whilst that may be true, I’ve been lucky enough to still have a few close friends stick around.

I certainly did realise who my true friends were. I did lose friends after having a baby, some friends did leave. Some were around throughout the pregnancy but never visited us after Kory was born, some friends visited once but then the novelty must have just worn off and other friends stayed and I’m thankful for those few.

I’m thankful that I did learn who my true friends are after having a baby.

The friends that have stuck around are the same friends that have always been there for me.

Us.

The same friends I know I could always turn to, the friends that have been there for every birthday, when we moved out, when we got engaged, when we found out we were pregnant for the first time and now for the second, when we found out we were having a baby boy, when we found out we were having a baby girl, when we had the baby and they’re still by our side today.

And now they’re right beside Kory every step of the way too and I know they will be great with baby K as well.

They love Kory just as much as we do and I couldn’t of wished for a better group of friends or godparents to be a part of Kory’s life and baby K’s once she’s here.

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Kory turned 3!

I’m sorry this blog post is a little late but we have had a busy couple of days.

Kory turned 3 years old on Thursday and I definitely had mixed feelings about this. If you’re a parent yourself then you will already know that it is so bittersweet watching your kids grow up because as amazing as it is to watch them learn and grow into their own little person, time just seems to go nowhere and I find myself wishing he could stay my little boy forever. I can’t believe 3 years have gone by already, why do they have to grow up so fast?! (Yes I have cried about this multiple times on the days leading up to his birthday, on his birthday and even on the days afterwards.) I am just so proud of him. Kory has brought us nothing but happiness from the day he was born.

I think it’s safe to say that Kory had the best day on his birthday and so did we celebrating with him. Kory was bought lots of lovely presents from us and all of our family and friends which included his first big boy bike and a new trampoline! After he had finished opening all of his presents in the morning, we got ready and we took him to Blackpool Zoo for the day and whilst at Blackpool we took Kory to Coral Island (his favorite place) before heading back home and having birthday cake! Kory has been well and truly spoiled, he is one very lucky little boy and we feel lucky to be his parents.

Kory’s birthday was such a busy, busy day that he didn’t have much time at all that day to actually play with any of the presents that he’d been bought because by the time we got home from Blackpool it was pretty late and Kory was so tired that not long after blowing out the candles on his birthday cake he went straight to bed. So the next day we just had a day spent at home, we stayed in our pyjamas and we just played with all of his new toys all day!

So that was Kory’s 3rd birthday, it still feels strange to me that he is a whole 3 years old even as I am typing this out and that has been our weekend so far.

If anyone wants me i’ll just be over in the corner crying while looking through all Kory’s old pictures from when he was baby…

Mummy and daddy love you all the world, Kory George.

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Child’s Farm review; 2

Having tried Child’s Farm products before and being really pleased by them, I was so happy when Emma’s Diary Parent Squad offered to send me a Child’s Farm Baby Bath & Bedtime case in exchange for a review.

I was so excited to receive our package in the post and couldn’t wait to open it! Once opened, inside there was a Child’s Farm baby bath thermometer, baby moisturiser, baby bedtime bubbles, baby wash and a Child’s Farm nappy cream.

Kory loves bath time! Especially bubbles so he was really impressed by the Child’s Farm bedtime bubbles product and how many bubbles he had to play with, it made bath time lots of fun for him and I was really impressed by how delicious it smells! It smells lovely and zesty!

Next up we tried out the Child’s Farm baby wash. Kory doesn’t particularly suffer from any sort of skin condition that requires any extra care as such but I quite liked how gentle the baby wash was on his skin anyway and how soft it felt afterwards.

Lastly, we finished off by using the Child’s Farm baby moisturiser. Once Kory was out of the bath and dried, it was time to apply the baby moisturiser to his body. And if he didn’t smell good and feel soft enough already this moisturiser definitely finished bath time off nicely. I couldn’t stop smelling him and his skin was left feeling so smooth!

Inside our Child’s Farm Baby Bath & Bedtime case we also received a Child’s Farm nappy cream. Since Kory is potty trained I haven’t had much use for this but I have reviewed this product previously and I really liked the quality of it so I have put it away and kept it to use on baby K once she is here. I trust this nappy cream which is why I will be more than happy to use it on my newborn baby’s skin.

I definitely recommend the Child’s Farm range to any parent. Especially parents who’s children suffer from eczema or have sensitive skin as these products are all so gentle on skin. Not to mention how gorgeous they smell too!

The Child’s Farm products can be found in stores such as Boots, Asda, LLoyds Pharmacy, Superdrug or directly from the Child’s Farm website.

This particular Child’s Farm Baby Bath & Bedtime case retails at £20.00

 

* Please note, I recieved these products in exchange for an honest review. All views and opinions are my own. *

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It’s okay to do nothing

I don’t know who else needs to hear this but I definitely need reminding that sometimes it’s okay to do nothing. So here is a reminder from me to you, from one mum to another.

It’s okay to not have plans, it’s okay to not have planned lots of activities for you and your child to do together, it’s okay to stay at home and it’s okay to do just that, absolutely nothing.

Sometimes me and Kory stay home, we don’t go out and we may not do anything in particular or do anything much at all really and this is when I usually make myself feel really bad for that. I often feel guilty and tell myself that Kory is bored and that I should make more of an effort. Even if he isn’t. When in fact, those days when we stay home and just hang out, are the days that Kory enjoys the most!

And today was one of those days.

I hadn’t made any plans for me and Kory and I had no idea where the day was going to take us. We ended up just staying at home, I did some sorting out and some tidying in the morning whilst Kory played with his toys and then me and Kory played together in the garden for the rest of the day and that was it. That’s all we did.

Kory helped tidy the garden with his garden tools, he played with a big bowl of water and some toy cars and he was so excited when he found a slug and a snail too! Which I know might not sound like much – that’s because it isn’t but for a 2 year old, it is enough. Kory actually had a really fun day today.

And do you know what? Sometimes it’s actually quite nice to do nothing.

Life as a mum can get so busy, it would be impossible to do something or go somewhere every day, all of the time. So it’s not that I choose to do nothing because I can’t be bothered, sometimes it’s hard to even find the time to do anything. Most of the time I’m run ragged anyway. I’m taking Kory here or there, I’m trying to make it through my never ending to-do-list as well as taking care of Kory, the pets and the house and not to mention how much it would cost if we were to go out somewhere every day. It just isn’t practical but saying that, it wouldn’t make me a bad parent for choosing to do nothing because I simply felt like I needed to take it easy.

So don’t feel bad if you and your child stay home, don’t punish yourself once they’ve gone to bed because you feel like you could have done more. Use that time to just hang out with each other, with no pressure or expectations and take time to be un-busy. I can promise you that your kids won’t be bored, they’ll appreciate the time that they get to spend with you. Our lives are crazy enough as it is without demanding even more from ourselves.

I’m glad that I wrote this blog post, I catch myself feeling like this quite often whenever me and Kory haven’t done much but the next time that I do feel that way, I’m gonna read this back to myself and remind myself that it’s okay to do nothing! Kory is okay with us doing ‘nothing’ and I need to remember that it’s okay for us to do nothing.

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Every single night

Every single night after i’ve put Kory to bed, I watch him as he sleeps and I forget how much of a pain in the ass he’s been that day, I forget that just minutes before he finally gave in and fell asleep, he’d been fighting his sleep for over an hour.

Every single night I look down at how innocent he looks when he’s sleeping and I am filled with guilt.

Good old mum guilt.

I punish myself for the mistakes I made that day. For losing my patience with him when he just didn’t listen, for getting angry when I needed to tidy the house and he wouldn’t let me, I punish myself when I think I didn’t spend enough time with him, organising activities and learning him new things, for us spending too much time in front of the tv and not enough time playing, for sticking a mini pizza in the oven for tea instead of making him something healthy and homemade.

I punish myself every. single. night.

The thing is, they don’t give you lessons on how to be a good parent, all I can do is try my best at this parenting thing, every day I’m winging it and hoping that my best will be good enough. I don’t mean to snap and lose my patience, I’m just tired. I’m trying to hold it all together but some days I feel like I could scream! I’m a mum who loves her son so much that it hurts to admit that sometimes it’s hard.

I’m just a mum who goes to bed every single night promising that I will do a better job tomorrow.

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What I am going to do differently this time round

When you have your first child, everything is so new and you don’t know what to expect. Every experience is your first. Your first positive pregnancy test, first scan, first pregnancy announcement, first time giving birth, first everything. It’s amazing and although you wouldn’t change anything about having your child, there may be some things that you would do differently next time.Through my previous experience with Kory, here’s what I am going to do differently this time round with baby number 2:

 

  • I am going to go out more. I’ve always been a bit of a home body and always preferred staying in over going out. That’s just how I am, I’ve always been the same. After having Kory, I felt really overwhelmed and didn’t want to leave the house but I think when you have a child, you have to make yourself go out, it wasn’t healthy for me and Kory to both stay couped up all the time and there’s nothing I enjoy more now than taking him out to different places and on days out, I only wish I had done it sooner. So this time when I feel afraid to leave the house, I’m gonna remind myself that it’s okay and I’m gonna make myself.

 

  • Say NO to visitors. This is a big one for me. Kory was premature and as a result of this, spent the first 2 weeks of his life in the hospital after being born. When the time came to bring him home, I just wanted to be able to enjoy him with my partner as Rory was due to go back to work the next day. I thought people would understand this but obviously not. It was nice that people wanted to come and visit Kory but I would have liked to have been able to enjoy him myself first as I hadn’t really been able to in the hospital. The nurses did the night feeds as I had been discharged from the hospital, the nurses knew how to wind him and how to comfort him, I felt like they knew my child better than I did and this was my chance to get to know him. The whole experience was horrible and I feel like it was ruined for us, I just wanted to cry the entire time whenever someone came round and scream ‘give me back my child!’ I am hoping and praying that this baby won’t be born early so that we can avoid her having to stay in the hospital after being born like Kory did but if my pregnancy experiences have taught me anything, it’s that babies come when they choose to. So this time round I will be saying no to visitors and I will be letting people know when we’re ready for them to visit.

 

  • Speak up and trust my instinct! When it’s your first child, people think it’s acceptable to throw all sorts of advice at you (helpful and unhelpful), criticise what you’re doing and try to overtake. With Kory being my first baby and me doubting myself, I let people tell me what to do, or listened to people tell me about my own child, even if I didn’t agree with what they were saying at the time. This time round when I disagree with a nurses opinion, I will be sure to speak up, the next time someone offers me advice, I will take what’s helpful to me and ignore the rest, the next time someone tries to overtake, they will be put back in their place, help will be accepted when and if it’s wanted.

 

  • Pick a better pram. I rushed into making the decision of which pram to get for Kory, I chose my pram simply because I liked the look of it. Kory was only in it for 6 months, he’d outgrown it and preferred to be sat up in a buggy. This time i’ve made sure to look into more detail and compare prams and I am happy with the pram we have chosen.

 

So those are the things that I have decided I will be doing differently this time round. Is there anything you wish you had done differently, did do differently or would do differently next time round?

Let me know in the comments!

 

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What I’ve packed in my hospital bag

I love my Yummy Mummy changing bag and before I became a mum, I always wanted one! I just really liked the design of them and the way that they looked. When I became a mum, I finally got my Yummy Mummy changing bag and I love it! I love it so much that I used it as my hospital bag and pram bag with Kory and now I’m reusing it with baby K.

So I thought I’d share with you all a bit of information about the changing bag itself and what I’ve packed inside mine.

The changing bag itself comes with a clear zip pocket and a travel changing mat. Inside the bag there are lots of different storage pouches for bottles, ect and it’s also very spacious. I love that there are many different designs of the bag to choose from. I chose this one because I love penguins and when I look at it, I see a mummy penguin with her baby.

Here’s a list of things that i’ve packed in my hospital bag:

For baby:

  • Bottles
  • Ready made milk
  • Nappies
  • Nappy bags
  • Wipes
  • Baby grows
  • Vests
  • Bibs
  • Changing mat
  • Nappy cream
  • Dummys
  • Mittens
  • Hat
  • Cardigan
  • Blanket

For me:

  • Something to wear to give birth in
  • Pyjamas
  • Socks
  • Knickers
  • House gown
  • Sanitary towels
  • Breast pads
  • Slippers
  • Toothbrush
  • Toothpaste
  • Deodorant
  • Brush
  • Change
  • Phone charger

I think that’s everything I will need! Can you think of anything I might have forgot that I will need?

I love changing bags and I love hearing what people pack in theirs! So, what changing bag do you use and what must you have packed inside it?

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Yet another scare

Yesterday morning I went to the hospital with reduced movements from baby K. This baby is normally so active, she is constantly on the move and I am reminded every minute of every day that she’s in there and the constant moving is actually really reassuring to me. So yesterday morning after I’d been awake for about an hour and a half and finished breakfast, I noticed I hadn’t felt her move which was definitely strange to me. She’s usually kicking me in the ribs whilst I’m trying to eat my breakfast.

I decided I was going to try and lie down and put my hands on my stomach for a while as she usually responds to my touch with quite a strong kick but after a while there was still nothing. I started to get a bit worried at this point and that’s when I rang the hospital and told them what had been happening and they asked that I go in to be monitored.

I made my way to the hospital and once I got there I was seen to right away, they hooked me up to a monitor so that they could check baby’s heart beat and count her movements. After a couple of minutes the nurse came to talk to me, she was happy with baby’s heart beat but asked me if I had been experiencing any tightenings to which I replied no. Because as far as I was aware I hadn’t. The nurse informed me that I was in fact having tightenings and that I was having them quite frequently too yet I still couldn’t feel them but they were showing up on the monitor and every time I had one, baby K’s heart rate dropped.

I was in complete shock and bricking it at this point. I was expecting for me to just go to the hospital whilst they monitored me for a while, tell me everything was alright and then send me home but nope. They told me they wanted to send me down to the labour ward as they couldn’t be too careful because of my history of pre term labour and to just be prepared.

I couldn’t believe what was I was being told and I was so overwhelmed at this point that I just began to cry. I am 32 weeks pregnant now so I know that she’d be okay with help from all the hospital staff once she’d been born and being born at 32 weeks is a lot better than being born at 26 weeks which was how many weeks pregnant I was when she gave me my last scare, I know babies come whenever they want but I just want her to stay in for a few more weeks at the very least. Kory was born at 34 weeks and he spent two weeks in the hospital on Nicu after being born and it was tough, if she could just stay in until 35 weeks which is only just over 3 weeks away then I know she wouldn’t have a long hospital stay after being born and that would be less worry for us and a lot easier for Baby K.

Once I was on the labour ward, they ran a few more tests on me and did a few more observations which thankfully all came back clear and everything was well with both me and baby. My cervix wasn’t open, I hadn’t dilated and my body wasn’t responding to the tightenings and after a while, they could see from the monitor that the tightenings were beginning to stop and I noticed that baby K’s movements were back and as they should be.

After a while, they moved me to the maternity ward just so that they could keep their eye on me before sending me home and luckily I was able to come home last night. I was so glad everything was okay with baby but I just felt tried, guilty and upset. I was so tired, I hadn’t eaten anything all day as I couldn’t eat just in case they had to get me prepped for delivery, I was away from Kory and had been since first thing in the morning and just wanted to get home to him and to get a good nights rest.

Now I understand why it is so important to get to know your baby’s usual pattern of movements. If you are pregnant and ever feel unsure or uneasy about anything, just trust your own body like I did. Everyone will tell you to trust your gut instinct and you might think but how will I know? I have thought that too but trust me you will. I am so lucky that I went to the hospital because I didn’t know about the tightenings and I didn’t know that they were affecting Baby K’s heart rate. It was only through noticing a change in her movements that told me something wasn’t right. Now I’m home and she’s okay but had I not gone in to the hospital then who knows what might have happened! It is always better to be on the safe side so don’t ever feel like you’re wasting anybody’s time by ringing the hospital or going in to see them because you’re not and that’s what the hospital and all doctors, nurses and midwives are there for.

Let’s see if Baby K can hang in there for another 3 weeks or so. I don’t want any more scares, I’ve had enough of those from this pregnancy to last me a life time!

I’m gonna have to take it really easy now and just hope for the best.

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Mama Bamboo review

I would like to start this review by thanking Mama Bamboo for giving me the opportunity to test and review some of their products. Since becoming a mum I have become a lot more conscious about the environment, the impact we have on our planet and what sort of world we are leaving behind for our future generations. It’s because of this that I’m always looking for ways to be more environmentally responsible and so have started to make small changes to the products that my family use in the hope that these will become big changes that will have a more positive impact on the world around us.

The first thing I noticed about my delivery from Mama Bamboo was that everything was packaged in recycled cardboard, there was no nasty plastic and I was able to recycle the cardboard boxes. I think a lot of other companies should follow this.

In the Mama Bamboo package that I was so very kindly sent, inside I received a Children’s Bamboo Dinner Set for Kory and I think this may be my favourite Mama Bamboo product out of them all. There are 8 fun dinner set collections to choose from and each set includes a plate, bowl, fork, spoon and cup and are beautifully illustrated with endangered species with a certificate that includes a matching story to help your child understand more about each individual animal and certifies that by purchasing one of the dinner sets that your child has helped to save that particular species and their home by donating to WWF and choosing to use eco-friendly products by Mama Bamboo.

Kory absolutely loves turtles so it was no surprise to me when he chose the Bamboo Sea Turtle Dinner Set. When I read him the short story that was included within his dinner set about Teresa the Sea Turtle he was really pleased to know that he had helped her and her environment and wanted to know more about other sea turtles too. I think these Bamboo Dinner Sets are a great way to get children interested in animal life and how we can help to protect them. The different Bamboo Dinner Set collections you can choose from include; Ping the Panda, Gonza the Gorilla, Teresa the Sea Turtle, Eka the Elephant, Thansanee the Tiger, Ponya the Red Panda, Ruandi the Rhino and Panuk the Polar Bear.

I have to say that I love the feel of the dinner set itself, each piece feels very strong and of really good quality. The Bamboo Dinner Sets are priced at £18 each and can be purchased from the Mama Bamboo website.

Next up is the Mama Bamboo wipes. Each pack of wipes includes 60 wipes that will fully biodegrade within 6 months and because the wipes are only made by using the softest, breathable bamboo fibres they feel so soft. The wipes are over 98% plant based materials which means they are suitable to use on newborn babies too.

I love that these wipes are completely biodegradable but I also love that they don’t leave that ‘wetness’ feeling like other wipes do after use which I personally think reduces the risk of nappy rash. The wipes are strong enough to take care of any messes whilst still being gentle enough to use on baby’s sensitive skin.

The Mama Bamboo wipes cost £2 per pack or can be purchased as a pack of 12. The 12 packs of wipes would usually cost £24 but are currently on offer for £20 on the Mama Bamboo website.

Finally, I was able to try out the award winning eco-nappies by Mama Bamboo. The first thing I noticed about the Mama Bamboo nappies is how soft they feel. They are made from the softest, luxury, breathable bamboo fibres and contain no perfume, no alcohol and no chlorine. The Mama Bamboo nappies will be 60% decomposed in less than 3 months and can achieve 80% decomposition over time.

Kory only wears a nappy to bed, he is potty trained throughout the day but I found that this worked in our favour really as I would say the best time to test a nappy would be at night time as that is when you need a nappy to provide excellent absorption rates for quite a long period of time to avoid any leaks. If everything is as it should be the next morning, then you’ve got yourself a good quality nappy. So we put the nappies to the test… No leaks!

We have been using these nappies with Kory every night for over a week now and haven’t had a single leak.

The nappies are available in size 1, size 2, size 3, size 4 and size 5. Each different size includes a different amount of nappies per pack and varies in price.

Mama Bamboo are so confident that you will love their products as much as we do that they offer a free sample pack on their website. The sample pack includes 2 nappies in any size for you to try out for just £1. All you need to cover is postage.

Mama Bamboo can be found on Facebook, Instagram and on their website.

I have really enjoyed using the Mama Bamboo products, I would definitely use them again and I highly recommend them. Thank you for reading my review, please let me know what your thoughts are.

* Please note, I recieved these products in exchange for an honest review. All views and opinions are my own. *