After weeks of Kory constantly being ‘naughty’ and driving me up the wall, I feel like we have really turned a corner with his behaviour. (Thank god!) I feel like this past week or so he’s sort of calmed down a bit. There hasn’t been half as many temper tantrums, screaming matches or meltdowns and I can’t tell you how happy that has made me!
I don’t know what happened, whether it was a phase of some sort that Kory was going through but I feel like I said nothing but ‘no, don’t do that’ ‘no, kory, stop that’ or ‘no that’s naughty’ every day for around 3 horrible weeks just to be screamed and shouted back at. During that time I found it really hard to parent, I wasn’t enjoying being a mum and I wasn’t enjoying Kory’s company like I normally would have. I would wake up dreading the day and go to bed exhausted and upset every night. I honestly had no idea what I was doing or how to handle it all which didn’t help with my anxiety or my feelings of guilt that I was already burdened with but I knew that I had to do something and as difficult as it was, it must have paid off.
I have no doubt that this dreaded ‘phase’ or whatever it was will return again at some point but right now i’m just gonna enjoy feeling like I’m in control of the situation again and not having to tell Kory off all the time. I know that as Kory’s mum I will always be his parent first and friend second because as his mum it is my job to make sure that as much as I have to allow him to learn and grow by himself, it’s also my job to keep him in line too.
It’s just nice to have my best friend back.
The next day was a new day and I was hoping (more like praying!) that it was going to be a better day than Monday. I suppose anything was going to be an improvement compared to the day before but i’m happy to say that Tuesday actually got off to a really good start. If you read my previous blog post What a day you will know that I had a pretty horrific day with Kory on Monday.
He behaved quite badly and afterwards I disciplined him the best way that I knew how which was to take his things away from him and totally ignore him for the rest of the day and it was hard to say the least but I stuck to it and I’m glad I didn’t give in because it must have worked somehow. I’m not saying that Kory is never going to throw another tantrum because let’s be realistic but since our ordeal, Kory has been more like his usual, happy self, he’s been listening to me and there has been zero screaming and shouting so I would say that’s an improvement.
I’m actually quite proud of myself for the way that I handled and dealt with the whole situation. I very easily could have lost my sh!t and screamed right back at Kory but instead I tried to remain as calm as I could considering. I feel like Kory’s bad behaviour had been leading up to that day, it started off with a little answering back and shouting here and there and I probably should have been stricter from the start but for me, he crossed the line on Monday and that was the last straw. I knew that something needed to be done and I feel like his punishment was necessary.
I’m really hoping that this good behaviour continues but for now, I’m going to put my feet up with a cup of coffee and flick through the tv. I think I’ve earned it.
When your children act up in public, how do you deal with the situation? How do you discipline your young children? It’s a hard one isn’t it and it’s something that I’m still figuring out.
What a day Monday was. I woke up and started the day with every intention of having a nice day with Kory. Despite having a late night the night before, he actually woke up in a pretty good mood. We had breakfast, we got ready and I took Kory to football like I do every Monday and my mum and grandad decided to join as well so that they could see Kory play as they hadn’t been before, which I thought – well that’s going to be nice for everyone!
And it was, for the first 20 minutes or so until Kory started to behave like a complete and total brat. He was shouting, screaming, pushing, he wouldn’t listen and he was smacking me too. It got that bad that I ended up leaving early and making Kory leave too which he didn’t want but I also wasn’t going to stand for that sort of behaviour. I can honestly say, in his whole two and a half years of being here he has never behaved so badly and I wasn’t paying for him to go to football for him to ignore everything anyone was saying to him and I certainly wasn’t rewarding that sort of behaviour or allowing it.
Humiliated, angry and upset, there was lots of tears from both Kory and from me! Kory had pushed every single one of my buttons and I just wanted to go home. My partner rang me just to ask if we were both okay and I broke down on the phone. It was awful. Who knew a two year old could make you feel so frustrated!
I’d like to say that things improved once we got home but they did not. I don’t believe in smacking Kory, that’s just not my way of disciplining him. Instead, his punishment was to have his iPad taken away, he wasn’t allowed any sweets, chocolates or treats and he was to stay in his bedroom but that didn’t stop him from asking for them or for throwing yet another tantrum when I refused. I don’t enjoy disciplining Kory, I’m sure no one else enjoys disciplining their kids either but I suppose it’s a part of parenting. It’s just a part of parenting that I don’t find fun and find really hard to do but if Monday taught me anything, it’s that I needed to stick to my guns if I wanted to nip this behaviour in the bud right away.
I don’t think I’ll be able to show my face at football next week. When Kory was behaving like he was, I felt like everyone was looking over and judging me as well as Kory. He was the only one misbehaving! Why did it have to be my child that couldn’t just behave?!
So that was our Monday. I hope you all had a better Monday than I did!
Over the weekend me and my partner, Rory, had a well needed date day. It had been a while since we had spent any time together just the two of us and it was nice.
I love Kory to pieces but sometimes you just need that time to yourselves to be reminded that you’re not just parents, you’re still a couple too. Which can be hard to remember when it’s been so long since you last spent any time together properly. I remember before we became parents, date days/nights were a weekly occasion and now it’s once every so often when we finally get to do anything together. It’s hard to find the time; work gets in the way, life in general, parenting and before you know it it’s been months since you last did anything or went anywhere as a couple. Not that I would change a single thing about being a parent but when you’ve just been ‘mum’ all day, every day for weeks, it’s nice to be reminded that you’re still an individual too.
We had a really nice day together, we had dinner at Handmade Burger Co the food was delicious and very inexpensive for us as my mum had bought Rory a voucher from Wowcher for 2 to eat here for his birthday in January that we had only just got round to using! So we only had to pay for our sides and drinks. After that we headed into town to do a little bit of shopping and even though Kory wasn’t with us, we still came home with a new toy and some new trainers for him!
We don’t always get to do things like this as much as we’d like to but it’s always really nice when we do.
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Hi everybody! Here is my next book review. I was very kindly sent a digital copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
‘A Fool’s Circle’ by Suzanne Seddon is a book that follows the story of a character named Kate Sanders who has suffered years of mental and physical abuse at the hands of her abusive husband, Alan. The only other people Kate has in her life are her daughter, Sophie and her best friend, Jill. That is until Kate is contacted by a solicitor who informs her that she has been left a small fortune by her old aunt who has passed away. Could Kate’s luck finally be changing? And could this finally be her chance for a fresh start with her young daughter away from her abusive husband? But what Kate doesn’t know yet is that her husband, Alan and her best friend, Jill have their own secrets and that they both want to get their hands on her money. Soon Kate finds herself falling for the charms of a man named Jonathon Jacobs, unaware that he has his own motives and that each move he makes has been directed, orchestrated and well-rehearsed. Things take an even messier turn for Kate when she finds herself in the frame for murder…
I thoroughly enjoyed reading ‘A Fool’s Circle.’ The book had me hooked from the very first page and I just couldn’t stop reading it! Although, I did find certain parts of the book difficult to read and at times quite distressing. Mainly when it came to the chapters that included Kate and Alan’s deeply abusive relationship and the domestic violence that she had to endure. But I do feel like the abuse Kate suffered was necessary to the story and needed to be included to show just how much she’d been through. I felt so much sympathy for Kate and her young daughter and as the reader I was hoping so much for them that they could find a way out from the abuse that was part of their every day lives.
I would like to thank author Suzanne Seddon for writing ‘A Fool’s Circle,’ such a truly gripping story that I have had the great pleasure of reading.
* Please note, I received a digital copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. All views and opinions are my own. *
I feel like I haven’t posted anything on here properly for a while but with it being half term here I just haven’t had a minute!
I was really looking forward to half term and spending some time with Kory and planning a few different days out and a few different things for us to do together. We even got lucky with the weather too which meant that we wasn’t limited to activities that are just indoors! So here’s what we’ve been up to since we last spoke…
Me and Kory visited an open farm. We both had a really fun day seeing, holding and touching all the different farm animals and learning all about them too! Kory especially loved the ‘pets corner’ which is something that takes place at the open farm a few times throughout the day, in pets corner they bring different baby animals out to show you and you can touch them and even feed them! It was a lot of fun and I already can’t wait to visit again with Kory.
We’ve been to Southport for the day for fish and chips on the front, ice cream and for a walk along the beach. It was such a lovely day and what made it even better was that Kory’s dad was able to join us as well as he had the day off work.
We’ve been to the park because what 2 year old doesn’t want to go to the park?!
We’ve been for lots of long walks with Harley, our dog, because we can’t leave him out of the fun! And we’ve been for walks with Nan and Grandad too and we’ve even been for a picnic!
It’s not often we get such lovely weather in February so I’ve really tried to make the most of it and to get us out of the house every day even if it’s just for a couple of hours or so for some fresh air. Also have you ever been stuck in the house with a bored 2 year old?! Not fun!
So that’s what we’ve been up to anyway and that’s where I’ve been hiding if you were wondering! We’ve had a pretty busy half term… Has it been half term for your children? If so, have you been anywhere/done anything nice with your little ones over the half term?
I’d love to know!
My Monday’s are usually spent trying to get the house clean and tidy after the weekend as I don’t really like to do the housework over the weekend because I’d much rather spend my time with Kory and Rory as that’s the only time that we all really have together.
On Tuesdays and Thursdays Kory attends nursery, he only does two morning sessions and finishes by dinner time but by the time I’ve got him home, made him some dinner and got him changed out of his school uniform and into his pyjamas, it’s already the afternoon and more often than not he’s too tired from being at school to want to do anything anyway and normally I spend my Fridays food shopping and running errands.
So on Wednesdays I especially like to make sure that me and Kory do something together that’s just the two of us, we normally go to the park, to the café or for a walk, I usually leave it up to him and let him decide how we spend the day so today when I asked him what he would like to do he said he wanted ‘chips and toy!’ Which in Kory language translates to McDonald’s. So today I went for a McDonald’s date with Kory.
After getting dressed, we got wrapped up and headed out for a walk to our local McDonald’s. Whilst there we spoke about school, our upcoming holiday, things that Kory’s likes and what he would like to do once we got back home and it was nice.
So that was our Wednesday. I wonder what we’ll get up to next Wednesday… How was your day?
Yesterday was Monday and normally I would have the Monday blues. I love the weekends and spending time together as a family, in fact that’s the only time we get to spend together as a family so I always try to cherish the weekends but I still always end up feeling sad when Monday comes back round because that means Rory is back at work, Kory is back at school, I’m back to being on my own again and even though I have Kory, it gets lonely sometimes and I have a whole week to wait until it’s the weekend again! And boy, does Monday come round fast!
But how could I be sad when this one is being such a sweetheart?! I mean look at that little face! Like butter wouldn’t melt! What an angel he is being!
It was only the other day I was complaining about Kory’s behaviour but he’s honestly being such a well behaved little boy recently and it makes me so proud. Proud of him and proud of myself because even though I doubt myself on a daily basis when it comes to parenting, I must be doing something right when it comes to raising my son because he is kind, loving and caring and it shows.
I know this is probably just a wonderful phase that he is going through at the minute and that I’m probably going to be in for a sh!t storm soon but let this mama have her moment!
Recently we visited the Bolton Museum and Aquarium. We wanted to take Kory somewhere for the day but we couldn’t decide where and our options were limited… The weather was rubbish, it was freezing and raining which meant going somewhere outdoors was a no go and it was January too so we were skint and wanted to keep costs down.
We ended up visiting our local museum. Kory had never visited a museum before so it was interesting for us to see how he’d like it – or if he would. Which he did! And It turned out to be a lot of fun for us all and better than that, it was totally free! We all had a really nice time, I hadn’t visited a museum for years, I don’t know why because I’m actually a bit of a history geek so I enjoyed myself anyway, I really liked reading all about ancient Egypt and the Egyptian mummies and I think Kory really enjoyed himself too, he especially liked looking at all the different fishes in the aquarium but most of all he loved seeing the different dinosaur skeletons!
Museums and libraries are a great place to visit if you’re strapped for cash as they don’t have to cost anything, it gets you and the kids out of the house, you’re inside out of the miserable, cold weather and it’s something thats enjoyable for the whole family. Our day out to the museum cost us just £3.99 and that was because we bought Kory something from the museum gift shop. Entry to the museum was totally free, we took Kory a packed lunch so dinner didn’t cost anything and because went on a Sunday, we even got lucky with parking too and that didn’t cost us anything either!
So that was our most recent trip to the Bolton Museum and Aquarium. Thank you for reading about our day. Have you visited your local museum recently?
Is it just me or does everything just seem so much prettier in the snow?
We’ve had quite a bit of snow where we live over the past few days so despite both me and Kory having colds, I wasn’t going to miss an opportunity for us to get wrapped up and to get out in the snow! It’s not often it snows here so I wanted to make sure that we got to experience it together.
Kory was only a small baby the last time it snowed and he didn’t really understand what it was but this time he watched with amazement as the snow fell from the sky, he was so curious asking me all sorts of questions about it and he kept telling me how every time he walked the snow would crunch under his feet.
We made snow balls, ran, kicked and jumped in the snow and then headed home to warm up as we were freezing!
We are so lucky to live so close to all these fields… I love snow days.