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What I do all day

At the moment I am a stay at home mum but that wasn’t always the case, I did have a job as a receptionist before Kory was born. Once Kory was born it made sense for me to stay home and take care of him myself rather than fork out so much on childcare costs so i chose not to go back to work. Since then I have become a mum again for the second time and the same situation applies.

When I tell people that I am a stay at home mum, i’m usually asked the following question:

‘So, what do you do all day?’

Well I don’t sit around all day drinking tea and watching tv if that’s what you think. (I wish!) Below is a basic list of what I do all day on a typical day when I’m home with both kids.

7:00am, Wake up feeling tired and wishing I had gone to bed earlier. Make Kora a bottle, grab Kory some breakfast.

7:15am, Feed Kora her bottle.

8:00am, Grab Kory his iPad or put something on the tv for him. Change Kora’s nappy. Get her dressed for the day.

8:30am, Put Kora on her play mat or in her moses basket whilst I tidy up after breakfast.

9:00am, Get Kory washed, teeth brushed and dressed for the day.

9:30am, Make the bed, wash, brush my teeth and get myself dressed.

10:00am, Tidy the house, wash the pots, sterilise the bottles, feed the animals, do the washing, put the drying away, hoover, mop, put pots away, put washing out or on the radiators, ect. (All whilst checking on Kora, entertaining Kory and answering his gazillion questions all at the same time!)

11:30am, Make Kora a bottle, feed and wind her.

12:15pm, Change Kora’s nappy. Put her in her bouncer.

12:30pm, Make Kory some dinner.

1:00pm, Realise that I haven’t yet eaten or drank anything. Make self a coffee and maybe some cereal. Eat and drink.

1:30pm, Tidy up after dinner.

2:00pm, Play with Kory and his toys in his bedroom. Sit with Kora.

3:00pm, Absentmindedly wonder if I’m doing everything right.

3:15pm, Leave Kory to carry on playing. Make Kora a bottle, feed and wind her.

4:15pm, Change Kora’s nappy.

4:30pm, Put something on the tv for Kory so that I can let myself ‘relax for just a moment.’

4:45pm, Look what I can make for tea. Make tea whilst also trying to keep my eye on both kids.

5:15pm, Rory comes home from work.

5:30pm, Dish out tea, eat tea.

6:00pm, Put dishes in the sink.

6:10pm, Bath and bed routine. Bath Kory, get him changed into his pyjamas and into bed.

6:45pm, Read story to Kory.

7:00pm, Let Kory watch a little tv in bed whilst I feed Kora her bottle.

7:45pm, Kory is usually asleep by this point. Change Kora’s babygrow and nappy.

8:15pm, Put Kora down to sleep in her moses basket.

8:30pm, Go back downstairs to tidy up after tea.

9:00pm, Finally get into bed myself at which point i’m usually struggling to keep my eyes open.

Sleep, wake and then do it all over again the following day… So there you have it, an itinerary of a typical day in the life of a stay at home mum.

 

This parenting thing is hard!

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Sometimes you just need a break

When you’re a mum, looking after the kids, running a household and dealing with everything else that life throws at you all at the same time – sometimes you just need a break.

I understand that going to work all day as a parent isn’t fun or easy either. I get that I’m lucky enough to be able to stay home with my children. I haven’t always been a stay at home mum, I do understand the responsibilities and stresses of life outside of motherhood.

As a stay at home mum, when I say I need a break I don’t mean a holiday or a reward for doing my job which is looking after Kory and Kora every day. I’m talking about just being able to have five minutes to myself so that I can feel sane. I want and need a break from time to time, not because I’m bored or looking for some fun, I want and need a break because I put absolutely everything I am into staying at home and raising my kids and let me tell you something, it isn’t easy. In fact, it’s damn well hard some days.

I can admit that I need a break but I won’t ask for help and sometimes even when the help is there, I don’t accept it. Or won’t accept it shall I say. Not because I’ve got too much pride but because I feel like accepting help is me admitting that I find life as a mum hard sometimes and that makes me a failure. And even when I do get time to myself I just feel guilty the entire time. Guilty for ‘palming’ my kids off. Which I know is a load of rubbish and it’s silly for me to even feel that way but in my mind that’s how I think and I can’t help it.

So what do I do instead? I end up pushing myself until I feel totally empty with no energy for anything at all. Which is no good, is it? It isn’t good for me and it isn’t good for my children. Because although I feel like I’m being the best mum that I can be by being with them all the time, I’m not really am I because when I’m with them I’m doing the bare minimum with bare minimum effort because that’s all I can do. There is nothing else left for me to give. I can’t summon up the strength to give anything else because I’m pouring from an empty cup.

I really am my own worst enemy and I need to remember that it’s okay to accept help, it’s okay to admit that i’m struggling and it’s okay to have some time just for me and to actually enjoy that time without punishing myself for doing so. If I want to be the best mum that I can be, then I really do need a break sometimes and if I don’t want to go insane, then I need to do it for myself too, even if it’s just for an hour so that I can refuel.

Sometimes you just need a break. A break from the responsibilities of being a parent, a break from the craziness and even a break from the kids and that is totally okay. In fact it’s more than okay. It’s necessary.

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Deep Freeze review

Since having Kora and having two children to take care of and run around after now, I’ve been rushed off my feet and I’ve found that I’ve been having a bit of lower back ache at the end of each day.

I don’t really like to take pain killers if I can help it so I was looking for an alternative to help with my back pain. That was when I decided to get in touch with Deep Freeze, who then so very kindly agreed to send me some of their Deep Freeze pain relief cold patch samples to try out.

After receiving my samples, I put them straight to the test…

I have to say, the Deep Freeze cold patches worked like a miracle on my lower back, with a menthol scent and easy application, after applying the cold patch I could feel it start to work instantly and it provided me with long lasting relief.

I highly recommend the Deep Freeze pain relief cold patches to anyone suffering with any sort of pain and/or muscle problems. These Deep Freeze products offer fast acting pain relief that is drug free which means that they are also suitable for use during pregnancy at a time when you are unable to take pain killers and certain medication which is very useful and I only wish I had used the cold patches myself when I was pregnant!

The Deep Freeze cold patches are available to buy from Boots, Superdrug, local pharmacies and all major supermarkets. They cost £4.99 for a pack of 4.

Thank you for reading my review and thank you to Deep Freeze once again for agreeing to send me some of their samples.

 

* Please note, I received these products in exchange for an honest review. All views and opinions are my own. *

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My hands may be full but my heart is fuller

This little one doesn’t want me to put her down today but at least it’s Saturday and we don’t have to rush out of the house to be anywhere, it’s okay that there’s still pots to be washed and it’s perfectly acceptable that Kory is still wearing the same pyjamas he went to bed in the night before.

Because I realised something today.

I realised the house work can wait.

Everything can wait.

I’ve always liked to keep a nice, clean and tidy house. In fact, I like to keep everything in my life neat and organised. I’m known for being quite a particular person.

When I was pregnant with Kory, people would always tell me ‘you’ll have to get used to mess once the baby arrives’ but that wasn’t the case for me. Without sounding like I’m blowing my own trumpet, after Kory was born I somehow still managed to stay on the ball with everything. I still managed to keep on top of the house work and keep my home looking nice. There’s been times when I’ve found it difficult to do so don’t get me wrong, like when Kory dropped his naps during the day and started to sleep only at bedtime but I still caught up and got done what I needed to get done. Even if it meant waiting until he had gone to bed before I could make a start on the house work.

But since having Kora as well as Kory to look after, I’ve found it really hard to find the time for house work or the time to do anything in fact! I have every intention of getting through my to do list for the day but I’m busy looking after both kids and running a house that I feel as though I blink and the day is over with before I even know it and once they’ve both finally gone to bed I’m way too tired to be cleaning the house.

But you know what? It can all wait.

I don’t want to lose my patience with Kory because there are dishes in the sink or because I haven’t managed to hoover yet. I don’t want to put Kora down as soon as she’s been fed, changed and fallen asleep. I want to cuddle her.

It was much easier to keep up with the house work when it was just Kory I had to take care of because he goes to nursery 3 days a week and when he’s home he likes to play in his bedroom which means I had a lot more free time to get stuff done. I think one of the things I have found the hardest since becoming a mum of two is accepting that I may not be able to get as much done as I used to be able to and to not punish myself for that.

What could be more important than playing with your child and cuddling your baby? Nothing. Because even when I think I’m doing ‘nothing,’ playing and cuddling is doing something and it’s a lot more important than those pots that need washing.

Kory is now 3 years old and the time I have had with him has already gone by so fast and I want to treasure my time with both of my children. He isn’t going to be my little boy forever and Kora isn’t always going to be this small. One day when they’re both grown up and they don’t want to play with mummy anymore, I’ll feel sad and I’ll have all the time in the world to tidy the house.

When Kory and Kora look back on their childhoods, I don’t want them to remember a mum that never had the time for them, a mum that would always brush them off because she prided herself more on what her house looked like. I want them to remember a mum that made them laugh and smile and actually spent time with them.

I want them to remember all the mess we made and all the fun we had making it together.

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Catching up

I know it’s been a while since I last posted anything and I am sorry about this. A lot has happened since I was last here so I thought I’d better give you all an update.

First things first, baby K was born! Our beautiful daughter made her entrance on her due date after months of worry and us anticipating her arrival after quite a few scares and being told I was ‘high risk’ throughout the pregnancy and was most likely going to have another prem baby. Despite this she proved us all wrong, including me who was also expecting her to join us sooner and she was born at exactly 40 weeks on the 13th of September weighing 6lb 3oz at 5:47pm after a very quick delivery. There will be a blog post solely sharing her birth story with you all very soon (I promise!)

We named her Kora Robyn Lonsdale.

So I’m guessing some of you may be wondering where I’ve been but the truth is I haven’t been anywhere, in fact I haven’t even been through the door!

1. Because it takes forever to get two kids out of the house!

2. I actually feel a little overwhelmed when I think about taking them out.

Since having Kora, i’m finding life with two kids a little crazy to say the least and I’m still trying to find my feet as a new mum of 2. Everyone told me when I was pregnant with Kora that it would be hard at first juggling two kids and I sort of just agreed but it really is. It’s a lot harder than I ever imagined. Kory is a wonderful big brother and Kora is a dream, she’s honestly such a good baby but usually when I’m feeding Kora, Kory will want me for something or when i’m playing with Kory, Kora will wake and I just feel like I don’t have enough hands! I literally feel like I need to split myself in two sometimes. For 3 years Kory has had me all to himself and we have spent so much time together just the two of us that I think we’re both finding it difficult now that all that has changed and with this comes a great deal of guilt on my part and I often feel quite overwhelmed by this. Obviously things have changed for the better, giving Kory a little sister and seeing him with her is the best feeling ever but it’s still been a massive adjustment.

I’m sure I will get into the swing of things soon and establish some sort of routine in time but for now, i’m just winging this whole thing and hoping for the best…

I hope I can get back to blogging more regularly too, blogging for me has been a great way for me to talk about how i’m feeling and for me to share with you all what I’m going through at that particular time in my life. I think it’s safe to say that since having my baby my emotions have been all over the place as I’m sure many of you will have experienced yourselves after having children. I mean just the other day I cried because my bump had gone and I was no longer pregnant! What was I expecting to happen?! It’s silly I know but it still makes me a little sad when I think about it. So not only would I like to get back to blogging again because it’s something I enjoy doing but because I think it would really help me right now.

So that’s you all caught up with what’s been going on in my life! I have lots of different posts that I have planned to write and share with you all so don’t go anywhere, please stick around and bare with me. I’m new to this parenting two children malarkey!

Thanks for reading and I promise that I won’t leave it as long next time.

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Varta Secret Life of Pets Torch review

We were lucky enough to be chosen by the Emma’s Diary Parents Squad and Families UK to test and review the Varta Secret Life of Pets Torch.

Before I even presented Kory with the torch for him to try out I already knew he would love it because of the design. He is obsessed with The Secret Life of Pets, it’s his favourite movie so he was really pleased when he seen that some of his favorite characters were displayed on the torch and what kid doesn’t love a torch?! So this product was an instant hit with Kory.

Moving on to the torch itself, the torch comes with a 3 year guarantee which I think is very convenient because when you have kids, you’ll know how often they drop things and how often things get broken but saying that, the torch has been dropped on accident by Kory a few times already but it still seems to be in good working order so the torch must be quite sturdy to begin with. The beam from the torch is quite bright but it does have an opaque cover to it so it doesn’t shine too bright to prevent hurting little eyes which I personally think with this torch being a child’s targeted product is a really clever idea. Included within the torch we were provided with the correct batteries for it, these were 2 long life batteries which was great for me because we are always running out of batteries in our house and I am usually quite busy so I forget to buy more! This meant that Kory got straight to using the torch right away!

Kory couldn’t wait for it to go dark so that he could try it out and see how bright the light from the torch really was. In his bedroom he asked me to close the blinds and the curtains so that he could shine it on the walls and on his ceiling. He hid under the quilt with it, he was shining it under anything and everything – he even found some toys and little bits and pieces we hadn’t seen for a while and wondered where they had gone! He wanted to build a den and look around inside with it. He had lots of fun testing out the torch and I was really quite impressed myself by how bright the light from the torch was.

I can’t find any faults with this product, if it wasn’t gifted to us already I would happily buy it from a store for Kory and I recommend it to other parents who would like to buy one for their child/ren. Kory now insists on taking the torch everywhere with us! So The Varta Secret Life of Pets Torch definitely gets a thumbs up from him.

Thank you for reading our review on this product, please let me know what your thoughts are in the comments section.

 

* Please note, I received this product in exchange for an honest review. All views and opinions are my own. *

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My child doesn’t leave me alone

As a boy mum, I am used to the fact that my days consist of Kory wanting to wrestle, who can shout the loudest contests, farts and mud. And when he’s not wrestling me, he wants to cuddle me or sleep with me and that’s nice but some days when I’ve not stopped tidying, i’ve done the food shopping, unpacked and put it away and entertained him all morning (all before even having a second for myself!) it would be nice to be able to just sit down with a cup of tea and to just have a moment. But usually the second I sit down Kory will want to show me something or ask me for something and sometimes I feel like my child doesn’t leave me alone.

Even writing this blog post was a challenge!

I don’t mean to sound like a ‘bad’ mum and some of you may think I’m selfish for feeling this way but when you’ve been stepped on, heard ‘mum’ shouted for the 100th time, been pushed and accidentally run over by a bike all before dinner time as well as feeling like everything is getting on top of you, sometimes the demands and lack of space can all just get a bit too much.

I feel like as mums we’re not allowed to complain about being tired or wanting space from our children without someone saying something along the lines of ‘oh but you’ll miss this when they’re older’ or ‘make the most of your time with them’ those people need to listen up! I’m sure I will miss this when he’s older but right now, I’m exhausted and I do make the most of my time with my kid, I spend my life raising him! As mums we are allowed to feel things and we’re allowed to complain, it doesn’t mean we don’t love our children!

It just means we’re human.

I feel like my child doesn’t leave me alone because he doesn’t. Some days I can handle that, some days I can’t, some days I feel like supermum and some days I feel like I wanna cry. That’s what being a mum is.

My child doesn’t leave me alone.

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Everyone always says ‘you will lose your friends when you have a baby’

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Or ‘you will find out who your true friends are when you’ve had a baby’ and whilst that may be true, I’ve been lucky enough to still have a few close friends stick around.

I certainly did realise who my true friends were. I did lose friends after having a baby, some friends did leave. Some were around throughout the pregnancy but never visited us after Kory was born, some friends visited once but then the novelty must have just worn off and other friends stayed and I’m thankful for those few.

I’m thankful that I did learn who my true friends are after having a baby.

The friends that have stuck around are the same friends that have always been there for me.

Us.

The same friends I know I could always turn to, the friends that have been there for every birthday, when we moved out, when we got engaged, when we found out we were pregnant for the first time and now for the second, when we found out we were having a baby boy, when we found out we were having a baby girl, when we had the baby and they’re still by our side today.

And now they’re right beside Kory every step of the way too and I know they will be great with baby K as well.

They love Kory just as much as we do and I couldn’t of wished for a better group of friends or godparents to be a part of Kory’s life and baby K’s once she’s here.

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Kory turned 3!

I’m sorry this blog post is a little late but we have had a busy couple of days.

Kory turned 3 years old on Thursday and I definitely had mixed feelings about this. If you’re a parent yourself then you will already know that it is so bittersweet watching your kids grow up because as amazing as it is to watch them learn and grow into their own little person, time just seems to go nowhere and I find myself wishing he could stay my little boy forever. I can’t believe 3 years have gone by already, why do they have to grow up so fast?! (Yes I have cried about this multiple times on the days leading up to his birthday, on his birthday and even on the days afterwards.) I am just so proud of him. Kory has brought us nothing but happiness from the day he was born.

I think it’s safe to say that Kory had the best day on his birthday and so did we celebrating with him. Kory was bought lots of lovely presents from us and all of our family and friends which included his first big boy bike and a new trampoline! After he had finished opening all of his presents in the morning, we got ready and we took him to Blackpool Zoo for the day and whilst at Blackpool we took Kory to Coral Island (his favorite place) before heading back home and having birthday cake! Kory has been well and truly spoiled, he is one very lucky little boy and we feel lucky to be his parents.

Kory’s birthday was such a busy, busy day that he didn’t have much time at all that day to actually play with any of the presents that he’d been bought because by the time we got home from Blackpool it was pretty late and Kory was so tired that not long after blowing out the candles on his birthday cake he went straight to bed. So the next day we just had a day spent at home, we stayed in our pyjamas and we just played with all of his new toys all day!

So that was Kory’s 3rd birthday, it still feels strange to me that he is a whole 3 years old even as I am typing this out and that has been our weekend so far.

If anyone wants me i’ll just be over in the corner crying while looking through all Kory’s old pictures from when he was baby…

Mummy and daddy love you all the world, Kory George.

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Child’s Farm review; 2

Having tried Child’s Farm products before and being really pleased by them, I was so happy when Emma’s Diary Parent Squad offered to send me a Child’s Farm Baby Bath & Bedtime case in exchange for a review.

I was so excited to receive our package in the post and couldn’t wait to open it! Once opened, inside there was a Child’s Farm baby bath thermometer, baby moisturiser, baby bedtime bubbles, baby wash and a Child’s Farm nappy cream.

Kory loves bath time! Especially bubbles so he was really impressed by the Child’s Farm bedtime bubbles product and how many bubbles he had to play with, it made bath time lots of fun for him and I was really impressed by how delicious it smells! It smells lovely and zesty!

Next up we tried out the Child’s Farm baby wash. Kory doesn’t particularly suffer from any sort of skin condition that requires any extra care as such but I quite liked how gentle the baby wash was on his skin anyway and how soft it felt afterwards.

Lastly, we finished off by using the Child’s Farm baby moisturiser. Once Kory was out of the bath and dried, it was time to apply the baby moisturiser to his body. And if he didn’t smell good and feel soft enough already this moisturiser definitely finished bath time off nicely. I couldn’t stop smelling him and his skin was left feeling so smooth!

Inside our Child’s Farm Baby Bath & Bedtime case we also received a Child’s Farm nappy cream. Since Kory is potty trained I haven’t had much use for this but I have reviewed this product previously and I really liked the quality of it so I have put it away and kept it to use on baby K once she is here. I trust this nappy cream which is why I will be more than happy to use it on my newborn baby’s skin.

I definitely recommend the Child’s Farm range to any parent. Especially parents who’s children suffer from eczema or have sensitive skin as these products are all so gentle on skin. Not to mention how gorgeous they smell too!

The Child’s Farm products can be found in stores such as Boots, Asda, LLoyds Pharmacy, Superdrug or directly from the Child’s Farm website.

This particular Child’s Farm Baby Bath & Bedtime case retails at £20.00

 

* Please note, I recieved these products in exchange for an honest review. All views and opinions are my own. *