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Every single night

Every single night after i’ve put Kory to bed, I watch him as he sleeps and I forget how much of a pain in the ass he’s been that day, I forget that just minutes before he finally gave in and fell asleep, he’d been fighting his sleep for over an hour.

Every single night I look down at how innocent he looks when he’s sleeping and I am filled with guilt.

Good old mum guilt.

I punish myself for the mistakes I made that day. For losing my patience with him when he just didn’t listen, for getting angry when I needed to tidy the house and he wouldn’t let me, I punish myself when I think I didn’t spend enough time with him, organising activities and learning him new things, for us spending too much time in front of the tv and not enough time playing, for sticking a mini pizza in the oven for tea instead of making him something healthy and homemade.

I punish myself every. single. night.

The thing is, they don’t give you lessons on how to be a good parent, all I can do is try my best at this parenting thing, every day I’m winging it and hoping that my best will be good enough. I don’t mean to snap and lose my patience, I’m just tired. I’m trying to hold it all together but some days I feel like I could scream! I’m a mum who loves her son so much that it hurts to admit that sometimes it’s hard.

I’m just a mum who goes to bed every single night promising that I will do a better job tomorrow.

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What I am going to do differently this time round

When you have your first child, everything is so new and you don’t know what to expect. Every experience is your first. Your first positive pregnancy test, first scan, first pregnancy announcement, first time giving birth, first everything. It’s amazing and although you wouldn’t change anything about having your child, there may be some things that you would do differently next time.Through my previous experience with Kory, here’s what I am going to do differently this time round with baby number 2:


  • I am going to go out more. I’ve always been a bit of a home body and always preferred staying in over going out. That’s just how I am, I’ve always been the same. After having Kory, I felt really overwhelmed and didn’t want to leave the house but I think when you have a child, you have to make yourself go out, it wasn’t healthy for me and Kory to both stay couped up all the time and there’s nothing I enjoy more now than taking him out to different places and on days out, I only wish I had done it sooner. So this time when I feel afraid to leave the house, I’m gonna remind myself that it’s okay and I’m gonna make myself.


  • Say NO to visitors. This is a big one for me. Kory was premature and as a result of this, spent the first 2 weeks of his life in the hospital after being born. When the time came to bring him home, I just wanted to be able to enjoy him with my partner as Rory was due to go back to work the next day. I thought people would understand this but obviously not. It was nice that people wanted to come and visit Kory but I would have liked to have been able to enjoy him myself first as I hadn’t really been able to in the hospital. The nurses did the night feeds as I had been discharged from the hospital, the nurses knew how to wind him and how to comfort him, I felt like they knew my child better than I did and this was my chance to get to know him. The whole experience was horrible and I feel like it was ruined for us, I just wanted to cry the entire time whenever someone came round and scream ‘give me back my child!’ I am hoping and praying that this baby won’t be born early so that we can avoid her having to stay in the hospital after being born like Kory did but if my pregnancy experiences have taught me anything, it’s that babies come when they choose to. So this time round I will be saying no to visitors and I will be letting people know when we’re ready for them to visit.


  • Speak up and trust my instinct! When it’s your first child, people think it’s acceptable to throw all sorts of advice at you (helpful and unhelpful), criticise what you’re doing and try to overtake. With Kory being my first baby and me doubting myself, I let people tell me what to do, or listened to people tell me about my own child, even if I didn’t agree with what they were saying at the time. This time round when I disagree with a nurses opinion, I will be sure to speak up, the next time someone offers me advice, I will take what’s helpful to me and ignore the rest, the next time someone tries to overtake, they will be put back in their place, help will be accepted when and if it’s wanted.


  • Pick a better pram. I rushed into making the decision of which pram to get for Kory, I chose my pram simply because I liked the look of it. Kory was only in it for 6 months, he’d outgrown it and preferred to be sat up in a buggy. This time i’ve made sure to look into more detail and compare prams and I am happy with the pram we have chosen.


So those are the things that I have decided I will be doing differently this time round. Is there anything you wish you had done differently, did do differently or would do differently next time round?

Let me know in the comments!


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What I’ve packed in my hospital bag

I love my Yummy Mummy changing bag and before I became a mum, I always wanted one! I just really liked the design of them and the way that they looked. When I became a mum, I finally got my Yummy Mummy changing bag and I love it! I love it so much that I used it as my hospital bag and pram bag with Kory and now I’m reusing it with baby K.

So I thought I’d share with you all a bit of information about the changing bag itself and what I’ve packed inside mine.

The changing bag itself comes with a clear zip pocket and a travel changing mat. Inside the bag there are lots of different storage pouches for bottles, ect and it’s also very spacious. I love that there are many different designs of the bag to choose from. I chose this one because I love penguins and when I look at it, I see a mummy penguin with her baby.

Here’s a list of things that i’ve packed in my hospital bag:

For baby:

  • Bottles
  • Ready made milk
  • Nappies
  • Nappy bags
  • Wipes
  • Baby grows
  • Vests
  • Bibs
  • Changing mat
  • Nappy cream
  • Dummys
  • Mittens
  • Hat
  • Cardigan
  • Blanket

For me:

  • Something to wear to give birth in
  • Pyjamas
  • Socks
  • Knickers
  • House gown
  • Sanitary towels
  • Breast pads
  • Slippers
  • Toothbrush
  • Toothpaste
  • Deodorant
  • Brush
  • Change
  • Phone charger

I think that’s everything I will need! Can you think of anything I might have forgot that I will need?

I love changing bags and I love hearing what people pack in theirs! So, what changing bag do you use and what must you have packed inside it?

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Yet another scare

Yesterday morning I went to the hospital with reduced movements from baby K. This baby is normally so active, she is constantly on the move and I am reminded every minute of every day that she’s in there and the constant moving is actually really reassuring to me. So yesterday morning after I’d been awake for about an hour and a half and finished breakfast, I noticed I hadn’t felt her move which was definitely strange to me. She’s usually kicking me in the ribs whilst I’m trying to eat my breakfast.

I decided I was going to try and lie down and put my hands on my stomach for a while as she usually responds to my touch with quite a strong kick but after a while there was still nothing. I started to get a bit worried at this point and that’s when I rang the hospital and told them what had been happening and they asked that I go in to be monitored.

I made my way to the hospital and once I got there I was seen to right away, they hooked me up to a monitor so that they could check baby’s heart beat and count her movements. After a couple of minutes the nurse came to talk to me, she was happy with baby’s heart beat but asked me if I had been experiencing any tightenings to which I replied no. Because as far as I was aware I hadn’t. The nurse informed me that I was in fact having tightenings and that I was having them quite frequently too yet I still couldn’t feel them but they were showing up on the monitor and every time I had one, baby K’s heart rate dropped.

I was in complete shock and bricking it at this point. I was expecting for me to just go to the hospital whilst they monitored me for a while, tell me everything was alright and then send me home but nope. They told me they wanted to send me down to the labour ward as they couldn’t be too careful because of my history of pre term labour and to just be prepared.

I couldn’t believe what was I was being told and I was so overwhelmed at this point that I just began to cry. I am 32 weeks pregnant now so I know that she’d be okay with help from all the hospital staff once she’d been born and being born at 32 weeks is a lot better than being born at 26 weeks which was how many weeks pregnant I was when she gave me my last scare, I know babies come whenever they want but I just want her to stay in for a few more weeks at the very least. Kory was born at 34 weeks and he spent two weeks in the hospital on Nicu after being born and it was tough, if she could just stay in until 35 weeks which is only just over 3 weeks away then I know she wouldn’t have a long hospital stay after being born and that would be less worry for us and a lot easier for Baby K.

Once I was on the labour ward, they ran a few more tests on me and did a few more observations which thankfully all came back clear and everything was well with both me and baby. My cervix wasn’t open, I hadn’t dilated and my body wasn’t responding to the tightenings and after a while, they could see from the monitor that the tightenings were beginning to stop and I noticed that baby K’s movements were back and as they should be.

After a while, they moved me to the maternity ward just so that they could keep their eye on me before sending me home and luckily I was able to come home last night. I was so glad everything was okay with baby but I just felt tried, guilty and upset. I was so tired, I hadn’t eaten anything all day as I couldn’t eat just in case they had to get me prepped for delivery, I was away from Kory and had been since first thing in the morning and just wanted to get home to him and to get a good nights rest.

Now I understand why it is so important to get to know your baby’s usual pattern of movements. If you are pregnant and ever feel unsure or uneasy about anything, just trust your own body like I did. Everyone will tell you to trust your gut instinct and you might think but how will I know? I have thought that too but trust me you will. I am so lucky that I went to the hospital because I didn’t know about the tightenings and I didn’t know that they were affecting Baby K’s heart rate. It was only through noticing a change in her movements that told me something wasn’t right. Now I’m home and she’s okay but had I not gone in to the hospital then who knows what might have happened! It is always better to be on the safe side so don’t ever feel like you’re wasting anybody’s time by ringing the hospital or going in to see them because you’re not and that’s what the hospital and all doctors, nurses and midwives are there for.

Let’s see if Baby K can hang in there for another 3 weeks or so. I don’t want any more scares, I’ve had enough of those from this pregnancy to last me a life time!

I’m gonna have to take it really easy now and just hope for the best.

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Mama Bamboo review

I would like to start this review by thanking Mama Bamboo for giving me the opportunity to test and review some of their products. Since becoming a mum I have become a lot more conscious about the environment, the impact we have on our planet and what sort of world we are leaving behind for our future generations. It’s because of this that I’m always looking for ways to be more environmentally responsible and so have started to make small changes to the products that my family use in the hope that these will become big changes that will have a more positive impact on the world around us.

The first thing I noticed about my delivery from Mama Bamboo was that everything was packaged in recycled cardboard, there was no nasty plastic and I was able to recycle the cardboard boxes. I think a lot of other companies should follow this.

In the Mama Bamboo package that I was so very kindly sent, inside I received a Children’s Bamboo Dinner Set for Kory and I think this may be my favourite Mama Bamboo product out of them all. There are 8 fun dinner set collections to choose from and each set includes a plate, bowl, fork, spoon and cup and are beautifully illustrated with endangered species with a certificate that includes a matching story to help your child understand more about each individual animal and certifies that by purchasing one of the dinner sets that your child has helped to save that particular species and their home by donating to WWF and choosing to use eco-friendly products by Mama Bamboo.

Kory absolutely loves turtles so it was no surprise to me when he chose the Bamboo Sea Turtle Dinner Set. When I read him the short story that was included within his dinner set about Teresa the Sea Turtle he was really pleased to know that he had helped her and her environment and wanted to know more about other sea turtles too. I think these Bamboo Dinner Sets are a great way to get children interested in animal life and how we can help to protect them. The different Bamboo Dinner Set collections you can choose from include; Ping the Panda, Gonza the Gorilla, Teresa the Sea Turtle, Eka the Elephant, Thansanee the Tiger, Ponya the Red Panda, Ruandi the Rhino and Panuk the Polar Bear.

I have to say that I love the feel of the dinner set itself, each piece feels very strong and of really good quality. The Bamboo Dinner Sets are priced at £18 each and can be purchased from the Mama Bamboo website.

Next up is the Mama Bamboo wipes. Each pack of wipes includes 60 wipes that will fully biodegrade within 6 months and because the wipes are only made by using the softest, breathable bamboo fibres they feel so soft. The wipes are over 98% plant based materials which means they are suitable to use on newborn babies too.

I love that these wipes are completely biodegradable but I also love that they don’t leave that ‘wetness’ feeling like other wipes do after use which I personally think reduces the risk of nappy rash. The wipes are strong enough to take care of any messes whilst still being gentle enough to use on baby’s sensitive skin.

The Mama Bamboo wipes cost £2 per pack or can be purchased as a pack of 12. The 12 packs of wipes would usually cost £24 but are currently on offer for £20 on the Mama Bamboo website.

Finally, I was able to try out the award winning eco-nappies by Mama Bamboo. The first thing I noticed about the Mama Bamboo nappies is how soft they feel. They are made from the softest, luxury, breathable bamboo fibres and contain no perfume, no alcohol and no chlorine. The Mama Bamboo nappies will be 60% decomposed in less than 3 months and can achieve 80% decomposition over time.

Kory only wears a nappy to bed, he is potty trained throughout the day but I found that this worked in our favour really as I would say the best time to test a nappy would be at night time as that is when you need a nappy to provide excellent absorption rates for quite a long period of time to avoid any leaks. If everything is as it should be the next morning, then you’ve got yourself a good quality nappy. So we put the nappies to the test… No leaks!

We have been using these nappies with Kory every night for over a week now and haven’t had a single leak.

The nappies are available in size 1, size 2, size 3, size 4 and size 5. Each different size includes a different amount of nappies per pack and varies in price.

Mama Bamboo are so confident that you will love their products as much as we do that they offer a free sample pack on their website. The sample pack includes 2 nappies in any size for you to try out for just £1. All you need to cover is postage.

Mama Bamboo can be found on Facebook, Instagram and on their website.

I have really enjoyed using the Mama Bamboo products, I would definitely use them again and I highly recommend them. Thank you for reading my review, please let me know what your thoughts are.

* Please note, I recieved these products in exchange for an honest review. All views and opinions are my own. *

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Baby K

Baby K, you are so loved already.

We are all so excited to meet you (just not yet!) Especially your big brother. He talks about you ALL the time, he always asks me about you and is forever looking around your nursery. I can’t wait to see you both together and watch how he is going to be with you. I’m not saying that it’s going to be plain sailing right from the start but I already know that he’s going to be the best big brother to you.

I have to be honest, I haven’t paid as much attention to this pregnancy compared to my first and for that, I do feel guilty. It’s not that I love you any less it’s just that I literally don’t have a minute to post any updates on how you and I are both doing or to check my pregnancy apps every day. But I think about you all the time. I imagine what you will look like and what sort of personality you will have. I predict that you will look just like your big brother, you’ll have his blonde hair but will you have his blue eyes or will you have my green? I think you will be a bit more tame in some ways but a diva all the same.

Baby K, you are loved more than you will ever know and you will be here before we know it. I can’t wait for our family of three to grow into a family of four.

You have completed us.

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Real posts

I am in no means a photographer and I don’t try to be. What I post on my Instagram is what you get and the pictures that you see here are real.

I don’t have the time to take marvellous photographs of me and or Kory on an expensive camera, I’ve got to grab whatever shot I can with my iPhone before he’s on the move again and make do with that! But I think that just adds to the realness of my blog. It might not look as professional as some of the other mummy blogs (cudos to you for being able to take flawless photos of your children and/or life) but I think it makes mine authentic and that’s what I’m going for.

Crap quality photos do irrate me on my grid and even on here so I do try to take ones that are as nice as I possibly can with what I have but my shots still don’t compare to that of others, their grids look immaculate and I’m okay with that.

When I started this blog I said I wanted to be honest, honest about parenting, honest about my life and that doesn’t include making my life look like it’s something out of a magazine and sharing just that online. Because for one, my life really isn’t perfect at all and for two, I think people can appreciate realness. In fact I think it’s important that people are real online instead of just sharing the ‘perfect’ moments. I want other parents to know that parenting isn’t always easy and that they’re not the only ones to feel that way. Maybe if more of us were honest about parenting and spoke openly about the struggles that come with it then there would be a whole lot less mum guilt. Not that it’s anyone else’s responsibility how I feel as a mother but I have to admit, I have compared myself to other parents that I see online, parents who seem to have it all together and come away feeling a bit rubbish about myself and I know I shouldn’t, no-one really knows what goes on behind Instagram because some people only choose to share with the world what they want you to see but it’s so easy to look at their seemingly perfect life and compare it to your own. So if your life really is as flawless as it looks online then I’m happy for you! But mine certainly isn’t and I’m not afraid to share and discuss those less insta-worthy moments. Especially if it means I will be helping another mum or dad feel a little better about their own parenting at the same time.

So no my grid isn’t perfect, my blog isn’t perfect, my life isn’t perfect, I’m not even perfect but this little guy is.

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Balmond’s Skincare review

After hearing so many positive things about Balmonds Skincare I was so pleased when they agreed to send me some of their products to try. I was very kindly sent a package in the post filled with lots of their different products and I have to say I am really impressed.

Having never used Balmonds products before I was very eager to try them out. So let’s get started with my review:

Since becoming pregnant I noticed that my skin had become very dry and quite sensitive. The Skin Salvation ointment has been great for nourishing my skin and because it is 100% natural like most Balmonds Skincare products I can use it without having to worry about having any reactions, irritations or itchiness. This rich, oil-based ointment made with bees wax can be used by all ages (from 6 weeks old) and on all skin types all over the body to moisturise dry skin. It is suitable for those who suffer with eczema, dermatitis, psoriasis (like myself) and any other dry skin complaints. Prices for this Balmonds product start from £7.99 but the ointment honestly goes a long way as only a small amount is needed when used.

The Balmonds Rosehip Scar Oil smells lovely. This was the product that I was most excited to try out. Since receiving the Scar Oil I have been using it on my stretch marks that are on my thighs and it has definitely nourished my skin and helped with the appearance of them. The Rosehip Scar Oil from the Balmonds range retails from £18.99 which may sound expensive but I think this product is definitely worth the money as I only use 2-3 drops of the oil with each use so I think this product will last me quite some time.

This Daily Moisturising Cream from the Balmonds Skincare range is made with all natural products and because it has been made with lighter Shea butter smells absolutely divine and leaves your skin feeling so soft and smooth. This light moisturiser is suitable for any age and is suitable for anyone who suffers with any dry skin complaints. This product retails from £13.99.

The Balmonds Bath and Body Oil is very versatile and can be used for multiple uses. You can use it as a shaving oil, massage oil, after a bath or shower to lock in moisture or even as a facial cleansing oil. This product is made from a unique blend of naturally nourishing oils, is suitable for all skin types from 6 weeks of age and because it is 100% natural can be used anywhere on the body. The Bath and Body Oil can be purchased from £12.99.

I think the Balmonds Skincare bottles although aren’t the cheapest skincare products on the market are all a decent size and are definitely worth the money. The products are very good quality, they are safe to use and are quite versatile. I think that makes them money well spent!

(Review to follow on the Chamomile Baby Oil once I have tried it out on Baby K.)

(Review to follow on the Baby Balm once I have tried it out on Baby K.)

I feel very lucky to have been able to test and review these products from the Balmonds Skincare range. I particularly like that all of the Balmonds products are all entirely natural and I would recommend these products to anyone who suffers with dry or irritated skin. All of these products can be found on the Balmonds website.

Thank you for reading my review, I hope you enjoyed it. Please let me know what your views are on the Balmonds Skincare range!

* Please note, I recieved these products in exchange for an honest review. All views and opinions are my own. *

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F%ck what other people think

Yesterday was a bit of a rollercoaster. It started off sh!t, then turned out to be pretty good and then went sh!t again.

Kory woke at about 6:30am and wouldn’t go back to sleep so we had an early start to the day which when you’ve got a 2 year old that doesn’t nap no matter how tired they are it’s never fun and so I already knew I was going to be in for a l-o-n-g day ahead. After getting up so early, I was feeling pretty tired myself after numerous bathroom trips throughout the night and could have done without such an early wake up call so felt like I couldn’t be bothered doing anything. All I wanted to do was sit and close my eyes which obviously wasn’t going to happen so I got myself and Kory dressed and then we headed out.

I took Kory to the cafe for some dinner, it was really nice and Kory was really well behaved. So much so that he even got treated to an ice cream afterwards for eating all of his dinner and for sitting so nicely. After that I took him out for a walk on his bike and then to a local play group that was on. It was good fun! I actually thought to myself ‘what a good day this is turning out to be’ but I must have spoken too soon because it’s after this point where it all started to go wrong…

Kory was asking me over and over if he could go to his Nan’s house, I wanted to just take him home because I could tell he was already tired but I ended up giving in and taking him to her house anyway. After he’d been so good, I didn’t want to tell him that he wasn’t allowed to go and see her.

But once we got there Kory just started to misbehave right away. I feel like he acts up more if we’re around other people or when we are somewhere else, I think he thinks I won’t tell him off the same and he’s not wrong. I won’t, well, can’t. At home whenever Kory misbehaves he gets sent to his bedroom until he calms down or until he says sorry because that’s what works for us but that isn’t possible if we’re not at home and I think he’s figured this out.

It’s hard being pregnant and dealing with toddler tantrums but that’s not what upset me most yesterday. What got to me was the comments that were made about Kory and my parenting. I came away feeling really bad about myself and about Kory’s behaviour as if I wasn’t being made to feel sh!t enough already by my 2 year old. When we got home, I bathed Kory and put him straight to bed and then I just cried. In fact I don’t think I even slept last night, I was up all night upset. Even though I know that my child is just like any other 2 year old, I still take other people’s comments to heart, probably more than I should but even though I have nothing to feel guilty for, Kory was the one being unreasonable and I was the one trying to deal with it the best way that I could I still spent the rest of the night feeling like a rubbish mum. And that’s when it dawned on me that this is how mothers are sometimes made to feel simply by other people’s ignorance and words and I don’t think any parent should be made to feel how I was made to feel yesterday and a million times before that.

Because let’s be honest, the judgement starts way before your child is even here. I’m currently expecting baby number 2 and I’ve already been judged for ‘doing too much’ or ‘doing too little.’

So I thought I’d write this blog post as a message to myself and to other mums and dads because I’m fed up of people passing judgement. I am the one who looks after my child every single day, I am the one who gets up with him in the night and gets up with him first thing in the morning. I’m the one that dresses him, cleans him, feeds him, plays with him, looks after him when he’s sick, learns him new things and teaches him right from wrong and I may not always get it right, I make mistakes too, Kory is no angel but i’m damn well proud of him. When he’s not smacking and snatching toys (because that’s what 2 year olds do sometimes!) he’s kind and caring, very loving and thoughtful, he’s so bright and clever and he makes me smile every single day. No one other than me looks after Kory, no one sees this other side to him, no one knows just how much of a good boy he actually is so it is so easy for others to make assumptions and to judge both me and him when they haven’t a clue because they don’t have to do what I do and they’ve probably forgot what it’s like having a 2 year old. It must be so easy for them to judge after they’ve had a full nights sleep and an uninterrupted meal or bathroom trip and assume they could do a better job than I can. So to those people I say that maybe they should take a walk in my shoes for a day and see just how easy parenting is then.

And do you know what else? I’m proud of myself too because all that Kory is, is because of my parenting. So even when he’s acting up, I’m proud of myself for how I handle it. I don’t need to raise a hand to my child to get him to listen, I don’t even need to raise my voice sometimes. Kory knows when he’s done something wrong and he will say sorry when he’s calmed down. At the end of the day he is 2 years old! He’s got a lot of learning to do and he’s gonna get it wrong sometimes just like you and I. So don’t compare me to other parents and what they might do, how they raise their child is up to them, that’s their parenting journey and no parent is better than anyone else. We all know just how hard parenting can be.

So just like how you might not agree with how my son behaves, I don’t agree with your comments. I don’t think it’s fair to say to a mum that they should act more like such a person because they are strict where as you give in.

WRONG. I don’t give in, when I say no I stand my ground and I mean no and Kory knows that. I would say that I am more laid back in some aspects like when it comes to Kory getting muddy, running around the garden with no pants on, eating treats and screen time but that’s because I feel like there are bigger things to worry about than my child having some chocolate and I honestly don’t think those things that I allow are gonna harm him in the long run. I’m letting him be a kid! I’d rather save my energy for the bigger issues, like the smacking and the being cheeky which I address every time.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, that is absolutely fine but before you voice your opinion maybe you should ask yourself:

‘Is what I’m going to say helpful?’

‘Is this my child?’

‘ Has my opinion been asked for?’

If the answer is no then you should probably just shut up.

Some children have conditions, mental or physical conditions and perhaps this affects their behaviour. Or in most cases (like my own) they’re simply being a child. Maybe they’re hungry, tired or they just feel like having a tantrum. Sometimes parents make choices for reasons that you as an outsider don’t have to understand.

So to fellow mums and dads that have been judged themselves, I just want you to know that we’re all doing the best we can and we’re still all gonna make mistakes and that other people passing judgement NEVER HELPS so you should do what i’m gonna start doing and f%ck what other people think.

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If you haven’t heard of this term already, ‘nesting’ during pregnancy is when you have the overwhelming desire to clean and organise your home to get it ready for your new baby. Is it possible that at 30 weeks pregnant I could be nesting already?!

Actually knowing me it probably is! It’s no secret that my babies have been known to make early appearances…

I know that I have been told to take it easy by everyone but I literally haven’t stopped cleaning the house. I just can’t help it! I’m actually aching from how much cleaning I’ve been doing; I’ve sorted through all the cupboards in the kitchen, I’ve decluttered every room in the house and I’ve cleaned high and low. I lay awake at night thinking about how I’m going to decorate the house for goodness sake! I feel like I’m going crazy but something is telling me that I will feel more content once it is all done.

So I guess you could say that I am nesting.

With Kory being our first baby it came as a total shock to us when he was born 6 weeks earlier than expected and we wasn’t prepared for his arrival at all. Our family was so helpful when it came to helping us get everything ready for him but at the same time it was stressful feeling so out of control and an already upsetting situation to be in was made more difficult by the added worry of trying to get everything completed before it was time for Kory to come home. Because of this it’s really important to me that our home is ready this time round so that there’s nothing that needs to be done once baby K is here, so that the adjustment to becoming a big brother for Kory can be made as smooth as possible and so that we can just enjoy our new family life as a family of four without having to worry about anything else.

Also I’ve got an obsession with bubbles at the minute. Yes bubbles. I had the same obsession towards the end of my pregnancy with Kory as well. I can’t explain it, all I know is that I want to squeeze warm, soapy bubbles in my hands.

I think it’s safe to say that I am either nesting or that I have gone crazy.

Was you/are you in full blown nesting mode? Let me know!